If the dreariness of this year has gotten you down, time to whip up some ideas and bring back sexy with your spouse this festive season! Plan intimate gifts and experiences over the course of the 12 days of Christmas. Start with setting the mood on the first day, gradually create anticipation, and turn up the heat by the time it’s the last. We’ve included our favourite picks ahead that get kinkier as you go along. Ready for your most intimate Christmas yet?
DAY 1: SET THE MOOD WITH SCENTED CANDLES
Scented candles are the perfect way to set the mood and some scents bring on sexy vibes more than others. Vanilla is a scent we all recognize and most love it because it’s sweet, warm, and soothing. Another plus point, it is also a natural aphrodisiac. Ginger, as you know it, is spicy yet sweet. It has been known that the smell of ginger stimulates the circulatory system, pumping blood throughout to every corner of the body. Jasmine has long been used for erotic purposes as well. Another scent to consider is sandalwood that relieves tension and relaxes muscles. Shop for candles at these stores:
DAY 2: BODY SCRUB
Nothing feels more sensual than having an intimate time with your spouse in the bath or shower! Prep an array of body scrubs and schedule a relaxing time in the bath or shower when the kids have gone to bed. Exfoliating not only does wonders to your skin, but the aromas that some of these scrubs give off are enough to make you want to jump right into the sack after! Apply the scrub on each other simultaneously or take turns. Whichever you choose, make this the most sensual scrub ever! Shop for body scrubs at Sephora here.
DAY 3: COOK TOGETHER
Cooking is a good lead up to an intimate and quiet night with your spouse. Start sourcing for romantic recipes for two or curate a menu from starters all the way to dessert on your own. Want to turn up the heat even more? How about trying out one or more of these sexy aphrodisiac dinner recipes!
DAY 4: CHOCOLATE FONDUE
Add a chocolate fondue to your romantic date night dinner or perhaps this can be the main highlight of the meal! Grab hold of an array of fresh fruits that your significant other loves and whip up a deliciously smooth chocolate fondue. Here are some recipes to get you started:
DAY 5: LACY MASK
If donning a full set of lacy lingerie isn’t up your alley, then how about a subtle lacy eye mask instead? Play pretend that both of you are in a masquerade party and dramatise the scene as a lead up to the bedroom. Get a pair for both you and your spouse and let the party begin! You can purchase from Spotlight or a less lacy set with a thong from Shein.
DAY 6: TANTRIC MASSAGE
Tantric massage is a type of massage based on the fundamental belief of channelling nature chakra energy to your inner body to purge, clean and restore the purest harmony of your soul. Tantra massage services give your body the ultimate touch of sensual relaxation and help to promote a healthier, positive mindset. Schedule a couple session with your spouse and experience the wildest of sensations.
DAY 7: EXPERIMENT WITH DIFFERENT LUBES
Ah, the lube. There are so many variations available and depends on what tickles your fancy, you can research and experiment with a few at a time. When shopping for lube, you’re going to find all sorts of options out there, from those that are natural, organic, flavoured, water-based, and even warm upon touch. Verywell Health lists the top lubricants here that might be worth checking out.
DAY 8: TRY ON DIFFERENT CONDOMS
Believe it or not, condoms are not just about safety, but choosing select variations can even enhance sex with your partner. Durex published a condom buying guide which is a good reference. Start with a variety of brands before moving on to flavours or textures. There are so many to choose from so start researching and stock up on both of your faves to use on special occasions.
DAY 9: BOOK OF SEXUAL POSITIONS
No stocking stuffer is complete without the good ole handy book. If you’re not ready for the full-on ‘Kamasutra’ yet, then go traditional with the ‘Joy of Sex’. You can also read up on ‘Sex Positions for Every Body: From Kama Sutra’s Clasping Position to the Weightless Doggie’ that boasts inspiring tips that’ll bolster your sexual repertoire this festive season.
DAY 10: ROLE PLAY
Who says that costumes are only reserved for Halloween? Time to pay a visit to the costume shop and let your imagination run wild! Pick up a maid’s costume and see your partner’s eyes light up or have him dress up in uniform, any uniform and you’ll go gaga. For some reason, wearing sexy ensembles cranks up the heat in the bedroom. The notion of wearing a saucy look in the sack isn’t a new fad and research has shown that some looks are more likely to excite your other half more than others.
DAY 11: HANDCUFF BRACELET
If costumes are a no-no, then perhaps a pair of handcuffs might do the trick! There are a whole host of handcuff bracelets to choose from on Etsy ranging from chic to raunchy. Some are even discreet enough to wear for dinner and in the bedroom.
DAY 12: EXPLORE WITH A SEXUAL MASSAGER
The finale for Day 12 is none other than the old faithful sexual massager and we’re featuring the Lelo TIANI™ 3 Massager for Couples. If you’re looking to discover an entirely new way to enjoy sex, this massager is a must try. One arm vibrates powerfully inside you and the other massages your clitoris, all while transmitting the pleasure the whole way along your partner’s length while you make love. Read all about other Lelo products here.
