I used to sing Coldplay’s Fix You to lull my kids to sleep.
Dr Melvin Tan, an Ophthalmic-trained aesthetic physician with a background in Medical Sciences and Neuroscience helms Epion Clinic – a beautifully designed aesthetic clinic in Tudor Court with a strong medical foundation and aesthetic expertise.
With 15 years extensive experience behind him, this father of three is known and respected for “his creative and aesthetic dexterity as well as his technical finesse”. Something I’d say we all look for in an aesthetic doctor, wouldn’t you say?
I catch up with the man behind so many beautiful faces and speak to him about his most important role – being the best dad and parent along with his wife, Su-Lyn Tay (Violet Oon) to two boys, Alex, 10 and Fynn 7, and 5-year-old daughter, Maya.
How did you find out you were going to be a father?
I was at work and my wife Su-lyn called me on my mobile phone. We had just got married two months earlier. Honestly, I remember being a little shocked from the news, but really happy at the same time. We wanted to start a family, but just didn’t think it would happen so quickly.
My favourite part of pregnancy...
was probably going to the gynae visits… seeing the scans, monitoring the babies growth, finding out the sex of the baby… exciting stuff.
The best part of being a father is...
feeling that amount love, concern (and fears) for your kids. I don’t think there’s anything that will bring out those emotions apart from being a parent.
and the scariest is...
worried that I wouldn’t have all the answers to their questions. My dad always seemed to know the answers to my questions, whether it was general knowledge or deeper philosophical stuff.
How would you define a father's role at home?
The father has to be the head of the house, physically, mentally, spiritually. You need to be a good role model but also good friend to your kids. My kids emotional development is one thing that really concerns me, because emotional stability is so important when they become teenagers or adults.
How involved we are in our children’s lives is plays a big part in this.
What are three things you wish for your children?
That they make good friends, they enjoy good health and they find a career that they are passionate about and fulfils them.
What song do you sing to your children?
I used to sing Coldplay’s Fix You to lull my kids to sleep when they were babies. It’s the song me and my wife walked down the aisle to on the day we got married so it’s meaningful to us plus its got a mellow tone to it.
Would you want your childhood for your kids?
We used to be able to cycle around our home to friends houses or to nearby shops from quite a young age. I used to love the freedom and independence of being able to do that. I now live in the same area I grew up but it’s not so safe these days with the number of cars and construction.
What would you like to do this Father’s Day?
I have been so busy with running the new clinic the past six months, I haven’t been able to spend as much time with the kids as I would have liked.
I enjoy playing sports with my kids so maybe an afternoon at the court and track near our house to shoot some basketball and play some football, followed by a BBQ at home.
Words of Wisdom for new dads?
The days are long but the years are fast, enjoy the times while they last.